Dealing With A Tragedy In The Family
No matter who you are, from time to time there is going to be some kind of tragedy that affects your family. All being well, it won’t happen too often, and it will be something that you can deal with. But when it happens, whatever it is, you need to make sure that you are working with your family to try and deal with it as best as you all can, and to be there for each other along the way. In this post, we are going to take a look at some of the things you can do to ensure that you are dealing with any tragedy in the family as well as you might hope for.
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Make Time For Family
Something you can do at all times which will help to strengthen the familial bond is to make time for your family wherever you can. At the very least, you should aim to meet once a week for some kind of family event, even if that is just eating dinner together and having a conversation without any screens being present. By making time for each other in this way during the good times, you strengthen the bond for the bad times, and you will find that you are a much stronger team and therefore able to deal with whatever is happening much more effectively. That is really one of the best things you can hope for as a family unit.
Let Everyone Respond In Their Own Way
It’s important to realise that everyone responds to tragedy in their own unique way, and you need to do everything you can to allow people the space to do this. If you think about something like a death in the family, people are all going to grieve in their own way no matter what, and you need to try and accept that rather than forcing people to all react in the same way. If you can do that, you are probably going to find that it actually makes the whole process easier, and everyone is going to feel a lot more capable of dealing with whatever is going on. Try not to prescribe a certain response, and instead allow people to react in the way that is most natural to them. This is the best way to make it quicker for everyone to heal and move on, which is the most important thing.
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Look After Yourself - And Each Other
You should never forget that it is hugely important to take proper care of yourself, as much as it is important to care for each other too. If you are not giving yourself any self-care or self-love, then you are going to find it is much more difficult to look after each other anyway, so it all works together in an important way. If you are not used to looking after yourself or you know that you are not all that good at it, you might want to think about seeking the help of your family at the same time, as that can make it all so much easier to do.
Work Together To Get Things Done
In many kinds of family tragedy, there are always going to be those annoying things that you have to do in order to move on. A good example is when someone dies - you suddenly find that, as well as grieving, you also have to think about all of the administrative stuff, such as finding an undertaker, getting hold of some funeral urns for cremation ashes, and organising the funeral itself. It is a good idea to try and do all this stuff together as a family, as that way you are much more likely to be able to get through it in one piece, and you will be able to support one another while doing those very difficult things.
It is amazing how tricky those things can really be, what with the high emotion going on, so it’s something that you will want to focus on as best as you can. It’s just another way of ensuring that you are really working together as a family unit, and helping each other move on as best as you possibly can.
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Allow For Space & Time
As well as being sure to help each other out and be active and there for each other, you should also make sure to create plenty of space and time for one another wherever possible too. This is just as important as the former, and it is something that can be very easy to overlook. Although it can seem as though this is a contradiction, really it’s about finding a balance that everyone can be happy with, and it’s one of the most valuable things you can do during times of tragedy.
Focus On The Positives Together
It is an important psychological tool to try and focus on the good stuff as best as you can when things are not going so well, and as well as doing this as an individual you should also consider doing it as a group too. By doing that, you can hope to get a lot more out of the situation and to get through it so much faster. When the whole family is keen on focusing on the positives, it really creates the opportunity for everyone to deal with the situation much more effectively, and that is ultimately what you are aiming for here.
Although it can be hard to do, with practice and time - and by being there and supporting one another - you are going to find it a lot easier to focus on the positives, and ultimately you will find that it gets easier over time as time does its thing of healing wounds. That’s something you can look forward to along the way.
If you are able to take all this advice on board, you should find that your family is much more likely to remain intact and as happy as possible throughout.